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Befriending yourself

“Neuroscience research shows that the only way we can change the way we feel is by becoming aware of our inner experience and learning to befriend what is going inside ourselves.” 
― Bessel A. van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma

Facing one’s feelings without trying to influence them is not easy. In my experience for many people it is easier to accept physical experience of being themselves and it’s a good way to learn the attitude needed for “befriending” oneself, which then naturally extends to one’s emotions and thoughts.

In a Feldenkrais session, with the help of gentle touch and movement person becomes more aware of themselves without the need to change anything or analyze the experience. Change in the person physical and emotional state emerges naturally and is often surprise for the person who is experiencing it for the first time.

It’s wonderful to have an opportunity to witness a shift towards a more balanced, harmonious state that happens in each session and how this new state becomes part of their every day life. They become more present, grounded, more gentle and patient with themselves and others.

With joy and surprise one client told me that he was not tempted to compulsively grab his phone in the morning(this was not something that he wanted to intentionally work on), another client said that meetings at work no longer feel as stressful for him.